9/20/2000 Ss neglected English homework all week, having to catch up,
his mom calls. He tells her, "I can't talk now. I'm not allowed to
talk during homework time. I have to go. Goodbye."
He finishes the work by 8pm. He's getting better and better *grin*.
10pm dh's cell phone rings. Dh asks bm puzzled, "Didn't our home
phone answer?" She responds she didn't call our home phone. She
sounds manic and demands to know when we'll pick up the certified
letter. (Ahhh, of course. Whenever she sends a certified letter,
she'd suddenly be calling ss every night. I think she would try to find
out if we'd picked it up, hoping we were upset. We didn't discuss
those things with ss.)
We'd just received the notice yesterday, and I picked it up
today. Dh got home at 7:30pm, read the letter and my drafted response at
9pm, and was able to tell bm with puzzlement, "We picked it up
today." Wind went out of her sails. Dh gets the impression she
thought we'd start misbehaving (like she does) and she'd caught us. He
gets the impression she's generally up in arms about how court went.
The letter was a very cordial request for a change of floating
weekend. Her letters are only cordial before a court date where she
believes she's going to royally screw dh. Otherwise they are rude
demands.
9/21/2000 Bm calls again. She wants to know when, where and time of
back-to-school night. Dh passes on to her from me that we mailed
that the day after we faxed her other requested info, a few weeks ago?
And today we received more info, and it will be in the mail to her
tomorrow. She says she didn't receive the info. Dh says
matter-of-factly, "We mailed it. We don't use certified
mail." I thinks she's trying to hang on to a remnant of
control.
9/27/2000 Bm doesn't show up at back to school night. My
daughter tells me when I get home that bm called ss after we left. We
don't ask him about the phone call.
10/12/2000 Bm asks to talk to dh. She tells him she's picking
up ss at 8:30am this Saturday. Ok. Then she tells him she's irked that
we celebrate ss's b day 2 weeks late every year.
His b day is 10/7. When she had custody, dh got ss the first
full weekend every October (so we didn't celebrate it 2 weeks late
"every year"). Since dh has custody, bm got ss last
weekend. She asked for a change of floating weekend, so she's
getting him again this weekend.
Since bm stays cordial, dh stays cordial and responds that she had
him last weekend, gets him this weekend, my daughter's b day is the
24th, so we're going to celebrate both b days 10/21 weekend. Bm repeated
that it irks her that we're celebrating his b day late, but stayed
cordial and the conversation ends.
*shaking my head* Just another lame attempt at trying to intrude.
Concerned Stepmom
"She" can be one too!
When you look at the deadbeat sites, ask yourself if you're
behaving like a deadbeat, and remember that men are victims of "her"
deadbeat mentality also.
